We don’t need to ‘confess’ our bad relationship experiences to a new partner
When we’ve had what we might term “bad past experiences” and we realise that we’re in the beginnings of a much healthier, loving relationship, it’s not uncommon to feel as if we need to confess to our...
View ArticleLess than speedy text replies from loved ones doesn’t mean we’re being ignored
Growing up, texting and near-constant connection didn’t exist. If I called someone who wasn’t home, the phone rang out, or I left a message on their voicemail or with whoever they lived with. In other...
View ArticleWe experience anxiety for ‘no reason’ when we rationalise, minimise and...
When Ami* got in touch with me, she’d been experiencing anxiety in her year-long relationship pretty much the entire time. At first, she put it down to new relationship jitters and not being used to...
View ArticleFeeling Anxious About Family Obligations and Expectations During the Festive...
It’s that time of the year again when my inbox and DMs fill up with people stressing about how to deal with family obligations and expectations during the festive season. There are three things that...
View ArticlePodcast Ep. 253: Was your intuition ‘wrong’ though?
There are times when we believe that we trusted our intuition and that it was wrong. From how we confuse it with fear, to how our interpretation and fear responses can lead us astray, to our...
View ArticlePodcast Ep. 267: About Riding the Rollercoaster of Worst-Case-Scenario Anxiety
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about how potentially scary news about a relative’s health ended up teaching me some powerful lessons about managing anxiety and worry....
View ArticleOur Codependency isn’t to Blame for Our Partner’s Emotional Unavailability
Maggie decided to attend therapy after her relationship ended due to what she defined as her “codependent behaviour”. Within weeks of beginning her sessions, she reconciled with her emotionally...
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Podcast Ep. 277: Knowing When To Stop
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I share a big decision I’ve made about Baggage Reclaim and the podcast. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Android 5 key topics in this...
View ArticleLiving With Excessive Fear Blocks Love, Care, Trust and Respect
Fear plays a crucial role in alerting us to situations where self-care is necessary. Notifying you of a possible threat, it blocks love when you don’t distinguish between real and imagined threats or...
View ArticleThe Trouble with Pretending You’re Okay with Something When You’re Not
Often, when clients, readers and listeners share stories with me, there’s an element of emphasising that they’re okay with something. ‘I’m okay with [their partner] being friends with [person who’s...
View ArticleHealthy Boundaries in Supporting a Partner’s Mental Health
Supporting a partner who’s struggling with their mental health without becoming anxious, depressed or low ourselves is possible, but it does take clear boundaries and self-care. We can care for our...
View ArticleFrom Emotional Shutdown to Self-Compassion: My Self-Care Evolution
Over the last two decades, I’ve learned to pay attention to signs from my body and my life that I need attention and/or that I need to ask for or seek additional help and support from safe sources....
View ArticleReturn of Nat (Come on)
After twenty months, The Baggage Reclaim Sessions is back. In this episode, I share insights into what’s been happening in my life, how I came to this decision, and the plans I have for this era of...
View Article“Is There Something About Me?”
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, my brother Richard and I reflect on our childhood and how repeatedly wondering ‘Is there something about me?’ affected our sense of self and...
View ArticleGray Area Drinking and Our Relationship with Alcohol
In this week’s episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Jolene Park, wellness coach, speaker, and former Baggage Reclaim student, joins me for a necessary conversation about gray area drinking. We...
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